Why Don’t Russian Men Marry Russian Women?
Why Don’t Russian Men Marry Russian Women?
Astonishing, isn’t it. There are thousands of beautiful Russian Women on the Internet. And all of them seemingly abandoned, left on the shelf.
The explanation is largely cultural. Most of us are attracted to Russian Women by their sexy, foreign accent. But if you already speak Russian, as most Russian Men do, the girls don’t sound at all foreign or sexy.
Another limiting factor is that the kind of women Russian Men date are usually already married to someone else.
Also, we must consider Russian demographics. There are far more men in Russia than women. I know this statistic is usually presented the other way around, but it is erroneous.
You will notice that in any sporting contests, - like the Olympic shot-put or weight-lifting - the Russian Women’s team regularly fails sex tests. It is also quite obvious to any casual traveller in Russia that all the women you see mending roads and driving trains are in fact men.
It is a complex subject and I will return to it later.
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I’m gonna blow myself!
I’m gonna teach men how to treat Russian women
I’m gonna troll all day using my knowledge of swearing language.
I’m gonna make up more stories about my wife.
I’m gonna get even more sarcastic and mean.
I’m gonna get more surgeries and shag any guy I can get my hands on.
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“I’m gonna get even more sarcastic and mean.”
Jester, honestly, you needn’t bother, I know your opinion about me.
I’m gonna troll all day using my knowledge of swearing language.
I was in the market today to shop for food with my German husband. I’m American. A Russian woman was in the market with her American husband. She was beautiful, blond, tall and blue eyed. Her skin was milky white. Her husband was shorter than her, but very handsome with blue eyes also. She was lovely, until she opened her mouth. She dominated and bossed her husband around until it was embarrassing. My husband wanted to take the guy aside and tell him to grow a set. My husband was so turned off. I was commenting on what lovely skin she had and he told me she was ugly to him the minute she opened her mouth and embarrassed her husband. Good luck guys with Russian women. I lived with two at college. Total sluts. Disgustingly so. You can have them, is what my husband would say. They are beautiful, but maybe their men don’t want them for a reason. Her husband was so handsome and could have had any good looking American woman he wanted… and he went for the perfect Aryan looking Russian woman. He seemed totally embarrassed that she was chastising him in public. She screamed at her kids too in public. She was Russian and acted like white trash. Her English was pretty good and I doubt she sounded better speaking Russian. Her accent was obvious and her big mouth was loud and clear. My college roommates were obnoxious loud girls also. Totally bossy and obnoxious, but you are welcome to them. Many have lovely blond hair and blue eyes.
At Anna: wow congrats at being jealous and judgemental ! Your husband is very lucky and I am sure he is a big prize himself lol!!!
“They are beautiful, but maybe their men don’t want them for a reason.”
Their men do want them actually, as many other men. Is that what annoys you, American frump?
@Anna
I see you are jealous and all so if you expressed your opinion about us, Russian women. Let me pass some judgement about you, American women:
The only ones who should grow a pair of balls is you, American women. This situation just illustrates the type of relationships your dear self has, in particular.
First your husband said “the minute she opened her mouth…” so logically he is with you because he wants a woman who always keeps his mouth shut and that’s how he sees your value.
Question to you: have you ever tried to stand up to a man in your life or you feel too threatened by physical strength - ever???
See you American women take shit from your men all the time, they manipulate you with quilt all the time and you do whatever they want you to do sending you quilt tripping.
Like, Russian women are sluts because they sleep with men for money. At least they do it for money! You American women go for all kinds of nasty, degrading s-it free of charge!!! They make you have threesomes, they share you with multiply men - they sleep with you won’t court you by no means and leave next day - you come back for more.
They shamed you into thinking men shouldn’t support women and then they blame you for being masculine and at the end of the day they would buy a hooker just because they like to feel a man for change, above someone.
I think that by such behavior you spoil men and make them spineless and less of achivers.
You said that your husband said no thanks to a Russian girl but the thing is - the Russian girl didn’t offer herself to your German husband. Trust me, he must have tried plenty of times to get himself one but I don’t think any Russian woman would buy into his philosophies - BECAUSE RUSSIAN WOMEN DON’T TAKE SHIT FROM ANYONE.
Hopey Changey… Thank you for confirming Daniel’s (and most of the men in this thread) opinion on Russian Women. At least you’re being honest.
Yes I am being honest. What are you? A pillar of morals? A manifistation of class? A superior intellect?
What did you expect I would say:
“Oh, I’m so sorry I don’t like fat guys with no money. Now you got me shamed. Sorry I don’t want to live in trailer with a guy in wifebeater. I hide my head between my legs. Now I won’t go out for the shame you put in me. Oh dear!!!”
Also, I would like to respond at some men trolling here pretending to be Russian women. The arabic/muslim/semitic sort of men:
You guys always fail with Russian women because you don’t know how to play the game so you keep losing it and become bitter. First most of you do not have education above highschool and most of Russian women have college degree - hard to converse with you. Second point: you ask all kinds of impolite, intrusive questions e.g. “what job do you do?” “do you live alone or with your bf or with your parents?”
First, it’s none of your business what women do for living. A man shouldn’t bother about such things as they become self evident later. I tell you why its impolite: because you ask her this to figure out how much money she would make. And you do it first time you talk to a woman~!
Second question you ask sounds like you offer yourself to move in with her already, like is there place where you could meet to fuck her,cause you are such a poor Indian/Arab/Pakistanic boy who won’t be able to afford a hotel on regularbasis.
So in short SMARTEN UP for change and learn to use your upper head at least sometimes
And you can call me racist - I don’t give a damn. Cause you go and spend your time on such forums instead of being with women of your own kind.Then you never get to lay a Russian woman because you are so unbelivably stupid and you get ignored as a rule after first two phrases. Then you go and lie about it making up stories that you had sex with 100 Russian women, each of you. While in reality you banged some fat old chick from Belgium - comforting yourself with “at least she was white”.
Every single women I’ve ever met, one of the first questions out of her mouth is “What do you do for a living?”. Men are judged upon the answer before the women knows any of the man’s likes, dislikes, hobbies or interests etc…
Why should men not ask the same question in return?
I have been the victim of a Russian woman’s public ridicule, embarassment and general ball-busting. They are loud, opinionated and extremely beautiful women. I would never intentionally embarass a woman I (claim to) love, and wonder why she had no problem humiliating me?
The only place I ever dominated her was in the bedroom, and oddly enough, she seemed to behave better on the days she was satisfied multiple times. A hard scenario to repeat, day in and day out.
Well I can speak for myself only: I never ask a man what he does when I meet him. And I care a lot about money. Why? I don’t want to offend a man and his fragile ego. If you ask such question then you are fucking stupid and inconsiderate and ill bred. And if your gf asked your such question - she is fucking stupid as well so you both are a perfect match! We live in a perfect world as law of attraction always works well.
Why would she have no problem embarassing you?
Cause she says things that everybody else thinks about you anyways only she has balls to tell you this openly in the face while you keyboard genius do all this anonymously on the internet. If you don’t like something about her, tell it to her in the face, if she doesn’t correct her behavior then leave. Don’t stay and complain it makes you look weak and foolish
Just after I screamed at you–
What the hell is it all about
You spilled your coffee
Onto my sleeve
And you said
Don’t expect the tears
To come from me babe
For I’ve already grieved
But that’s when you let me
Back into your dream
And I know you’re frightened
By my laughter
But you’re not afraid
To hold my pain
You see I’m never sure
Just what you’re after, Babe
But it seems you only love me
When it rains
You never treat me
Like you treat a gentle man
You only hit me
When you know it hurts
But then why bother reaching down
To where I’m battered
To raise me up
>From the dirt
But that’s when you let me
Back into your dream
And I know you’re frightened
By my laughter
But you’re not afraid
To hold my pain
You see I’m never sure
Just what you’re after, Babe
But it seems you only love me
When it rains
Yes I have sworn
To myself to stay protected
So I have strapped on
A sword and shield
But my armour
Yes it ends up meltin’
When you come along tumblin’
Across the field
Once again I yield, I yield
Yes you get me crazy
‘Cause you never even wear my presents babe
You wear flowers tucked into your hair
But when I’m cursin’ in the night
In my frustration
That’s when suddenly you are there
Once again that’s when you let me
Back into your dream
And I know you’re frightened
By my laughter
But you’re not afraid
To hold my pain
You see I’m never sure
Just what you’re after, Babe
But it seems you only love me
When it rains
How come you only love me when it rains
by Harry Chapin
Ah, the classic Russian Woman philosophy: “It’s always the man’s fault”.
I don’t believe being rude to me in public is an acceptable behaviour, and don’t tolerate it from anyone. Having “balls” is a manly trait, and true Ladies do not behave like men.
I often hear the term “weak” used by Russian women when describing men. If I’m so weak, why would you want to be with me in the first place? In reality, most men are strong, silent and level-headed. While women are emotional, weak and have to knock down their boyfriend’s or husband’s in order to feel better about themselves. Fraglie ego’s with a constant need to be praised upon their beauty.
Beauty fades, the ugliness inside remains long after.
Why would YOU want to be with someone who disrespects you, pansy -ass stool pusher?If men are so much better in your eyes stick to them.
Notice how you don’t even know me, yet you’re ridiculing and insulting me? You bet your sweet ass, I wouldn’t want to be with you. As for “ass stool pusher”… Da, I enjoy backdoor pleasures with Russian women, but don’t get your hopes up.
PS. if you enjoy money so much. Go earn it.
HAHAHA. No way, should I learn that from you, I mean it must pay well to pack fudge.
Oh my God, most of those who post here are in desperate need of a good psychiatrist. Excuse me, ladies and gentlemen, I am not trying to be offensive, just helpful.
what a panoptikum you have gathered here, Copydude.
Wow, hopey, you are not shy about coming forward.
You mention if you dont like something about a Russian woman tell them. Sorry, it dont work. Then you say ‘leave them’. Sorry, I am married and I will do my best until the day I die to improve as a husband. (According to my wife, that should be easy, since I am the worst husband on earth)
So, I am kind of stuck. I have a wife I love (even though she is really a pain in the arse a LOT; she has that Russian turn of phrase where she, in one sentence, can scarcastically rip you to shreds). Any the point is: she aint perfect. To be honest, she is really, really, really difficult. And I promised to love her and be her husband until death.
Now, onto me. I can be a shit as well. I am even into therapy to learn how not to yell when I am nagged and scarasmed over and over and over. Sometimes I just explode and yell. I feel like I am in some human, Russian, torture, phychological experiment.
But I am determined to succeed.
Oh, my wife has not talked to me now going on 7 weeks. Well, once in while she will explain how I have done something wrong. Like I had a piece of cheese from the slices she bought the other day, and I did not go up and replace it with the same cheese. The cheese I bought was inferior. As my Russian step daughter explained: ‘you ate a piece of mum’s $20 a kilo cheese and you replaced it with $5 a kilo cheese’
The point is, day in a day out I bombarded with this Russian ’sarcasm and put downs’. It is very, very unpleasant being married to a Russian woman in a bad mood. When they are in a good mood, they are the most amazing on earth.
But a Russian woman in a bad mood. OUCH.
As Jester says (you are a poet, mate), the beauty fades, but the ugliness inside long remains.
I invide my wife to thearpy with me every week. But she refuses to go. Why would she go. She thinks she is 100% correct (she has told me that many times). Maybe she could go to help me. But that would mean she would need to show some kindness and compassion. But she is in a bad mood, and she is Russian. OUCH.
Hey Ivorybird. I am seeing a Dr. as my wife and her church said I was insane. Funny my Dr. does not think I am insane. But my Dr. thinks I need to learn to not let my wife play the adult / child roles. You know - adult which is the maniacal boss. Or child which is ‘give me stuff, why dont you give me more’
My Dr. is trying to help me be an adult under this extreme duress and onslaught. I did it from Sep to Jan. 4 months I ignored the rubbish that spews out of a Russian’s mouth. Then one day, the spew was double. And doubly unfair. Then my wife, becuause I had the nerve to disagree with her (no yelling, just disagree) decided to move out of the bedroom to the lounge room and declare our following (paid) holiday cancelled.
Last year she she spend May to Sep in the lounge room.
Anyway, as she dragged the guest mattress to the lounge room and declared ‘no holidays’ because I disagreed with her on two stupid statments. THEN I YELLED.
Now she is leaving me - going back to Ukraine next month - because I YELLED.
A Russian woman can never be wrong about anything. Any unpleasantness or unfulfilled dream is the fault of the man. Oh, I am husband number three, now down the drain.
But I can tell you, when the times were good, wow! I dont mean sex I just mean WOW. It is like living with Jeckle and Hyde. And I am in control of which one I get. But sometimes I fail - and I call out the bad one. But, of course, that is my fault. It has been like this for 10 years. I guess it is not likely to change.
I have seen plenty all-American couples where the girl is 30 years younger than her sugar daddy. Both seem to enjoy whatever it is they derive from their relationship. Greed is universal, Vanity is universal, but on the other hand, Love is too! people love with what they can, and we should not be judging anyone.
Get a fucking divorce, Daniel. And never give a promise you can’t keep. Let it be a lesson toyou. If you don’t have respect in your relationship - you have nothing. And the paper marriage and wow won’t hold it together.
Your wife sounds like a petty person to argue about some stupid cheese. Two people who can’t share a cheese together can’t share whole life either.
Jester didn’t say that, I mean in a way that the phrase about beauty that fades and ugliness inside doesn’t belong to him. He speaks in a binge of cliched phrases and doesn’t have a thought in his head that’s not borrowed. Ps, Jester: you don’t need an apostrophe when you use a noun in plural, learn to speak your own language, dumbass!
Smarten the fuck up, Daniel.
By the way Daniel, you mentioned your wife is from Ukraine - why do you call her Russian?
Many Ukranians hate us Russians and they are an independant country now - funny how when it comes to chase men they would rather go under Russian lable.
Find yourself a Russian woman next time, Ukranians are weird in many ways. Just my opinion.
Hopey, that is the problem I have with society… instead of fixing an issue (especially in a marriage) it is - ‘get a divorce’.
I refuse to change my morals. I made a promise and that is that. I will do anything to improve myself and my relationship and my communication. I chose a woman I love. I ignored the early signs of ‘her’ issues.
The lack of respect comes and goes. Sometimes she treated me like a God (with too much respect). Other times, and most recently, she treats me with disdain.
I am the same person. She goes IN and OUT of the relationship at the drop of a hat. And all the while blames me for her moods.
Anyway, that is just boring crap, what I just wrote. My point is: ‘no, I will not get a divorce; I will go down with the ship’. I will try whatever I can to get her back.
Heck, I even bought her flowers yesterday (when I went up and bought the good cheese). It is just that everything is so, so petty. Is is like the nag-olympics. I dont think she means it. And she does not even know she does it.
When she told me yesterday she was the LEAST nagging person on earth, her daughter (who was there) rolled her eyes and they had a long conversation in Russian. Daughter explained to mum that mum really is a very, very big nagger. The compromise was that mum nags because she loves and cares. So I guess my wife is biggest lover and carer on earth.
Divorce. NO WAY. I am not putting up with a Russian woman for 10 years only to have her walk out because I yelled because she tortured me. I wont have it.
Wifey is Russian. Dad was an engineer who just happened to get stationed in Ukraine. So whe grew up there. She is very, very Russian. She even tells me she has some Czar blood in her family.
“And the license said you had to stick around
Until I was dead
But If you’re tired of looking at my face
I guess I already am”
If I were you, Daniel. I’d check out some of John Gottman’s stuff (research of many years) about marriages which are to be a success and failure. You can find it on youtube for free. Your Doc sounds like a waste of money.
I doubt that! I mean about her origin!!!Ha ha though nice that you bought into that shit, santa simplicita!
Hopey, here is my opinion. Any marriage can be great if the two people want it to be great. And the two people will work at it. Pure and simple.
I am ‘calling out’ my wife. I mean I tell her straight: ‘it is a marriage - not a walk away contract’. She has not worked that out yet.
And funny - one the reasons I married her is she is a Christian who believes she should follow what the Bible teaches. She is 100% in the wrong to walk out. She knows it. But she is having a lot of advice from her church which is ‘if you have a bad feeling to your husband, it is ok to leave’. I am a lot upset by this advice from her (our) church. I have since left this church based on the crazy advice they give.
So here we have a Russian woman who thinks she is 100% in the right always. And the church has backed her up on that. Then the church said ‘if you feel bad toward you husband - you can leave’. What a church! What bad advice. Certainly this is nothing like the Bible I read.
Fuck you Daniel, stop playing a victim already. You bore me with your victimhood. Where is your pride?
Hopey, I aint no victim. I have a Russian wife who oscillates between tyrant, child, and the most perfect woman on earth.
Ok, so be it. That is where I am. If I can ignore tyrant and I can control (ignore?) child then I end up with perfection.
Why should I throw out my wife because she has some issues. I would never do that. I just need to learn how to live is this Russian-woman environment.
I dont think I am a victim. I actually think the entire situation is incredibly unfair to me. But I suppose a person with Downes has unfairness. A blind person has unfairness. A cripple has unfairness.
I am not a victim. I contributed a lot to my situation. And I hope I can UNcontribute. Hopey, it is what Russian women mean when they say ‘I want a man who knows how to control me’. You guys say that all the time. I only learn after 10 years you mean
As tyrant-parent-nag-woman: husband should ignore me
As child-complain-give-me-more woman: husband should ignore me
As perfect-respectful woman: husband should encorage and reward that
The biggest problem I have (and I tell my shrink this): it is like I am training some animal.
But, in reality, I am just learning heathly responses to unhealthy communication. I have failed to date. The Russian woman really cannot control themselves. So it is up to the man to do it. I have failed. But I want another go.
Can you reread what you just wrote???
“I dont think I am a victim. I actually think the entire situation is incredibly unfair to me”
Poor little you.
You are dumb
Boring
You suck.
Keep playing a victim. As if you didn’t pick the person you are with. Stupid fuck you bore me to death
Folks, ask yourselves: what if I can’t actually change the person I am with. If I totally fully and completely give up hope that this person will change to fit my standards -period -shall I stay or should I walk away? What if this is as good as it gets?
I’m done with this forum. If only being stupid was painful.
So I bore you because my Russian wife mainly plays parent and/or child in a marriage.
And I bore you because I wont get a divorce.
And I bore you because I am upfront about all this.
Are you actually in a relationship. Do you have any idea about communication. You seem to be mainly in the tyrant role.
So hopey, you are ‘done with us’ because we dont agree with you.
You are ‘done with us’ because you believe in the world view that is ‘do not try to improve relationships… just walk out’
At least you let us know your opinion. I think it will never change. Nor can you be reasoned with. Therefore your few posts we can just read over and over.
Good luck with your relationships. I think you will need it.
I have not given up. So I guess, even according to you, I can hang in there a little while longer.
YES I AM IN RELATIONSHIP.
I LOVE HIM AND ACCEPT HIM AS HE IS.
HE IS THE BEST MAN IN THE WORLD TO ME !!!
HE IS ALLOWED TO BE IMPERFECT AND MAKE MISTAKES.
HE IS SUPER INTELLIGENT, STRONG AND NON JUDGEMENTAL.
IF YOU AREN’T HAPPY WITH THE PERSON -LEAVE THEM, DON’T STAY, TELL THEM YOU ARE MISERABLE BECAUSE OF THEM, JUST WALK AWAY AND CLEAR SPACE FOR SOMEONE YOU WON’T HAVE TO MAKE FEEL INADEQUATE AND BE MISERABLE WITH.
THAT’S SO FUCKING PETTY !
I DON’T WANT TO ARGUE WITH HIM, ALL I WANT IS FOR HIM TO BE HAPPY, I COULD STAY UP ALL NIGHT MASSAGING HIS BACK. THERE IS NOTHING THAT I LOVE AS MUCH AS MAKING LOVE TO HIM - TO SLEEP IN SEPARATE ROOM IS JUST TORTUROUSTHOUGHT AND READING ALL THIS SHIT IN THE FORUM JUST REMINDS ME WHY I CHOSE HIM FROM ALL THE OTHER MEN. I’D RATHER DIE THAN HURT OR BETRAY HIM.
I love you, Aidan! More than there are stars in the skies and fish in the sea!!!!
Whoa, Hopey! You are harsh. But a lot of stuff you say makes a lot of sense. As for Jester, don’t mind him. He is just sexually frustrated and desperate for a Russian woman. You could see it from his earlier posts. I liked the way you mentioned the difference between Ukrainian women who a lot of times really dislike Russians and will purposely talk in Ukrainian in front of you about you but than tell people they are Russian. I was thinking the same thing but never said it out loud! Daniel, if your wife grew up in Ukraine how is she Russian? It’s the same thing what Electra says :”I’m half Russian”. No, people mix up nationality and authenticity. As for divorce: you cannot fix unfixable. It’s really nice to see how hard you’re trying though.
Hopey, you seem smart but maybe you should cut back on cussing so much?
And about the Arabic/Pakistanis/etc… Lol! You did make a good point! That’s very true. The other day I was on my way to school and had to stop and get gas. One of them filled up my tank and as I was giving him the money he purposely touched my hand with this cocky smile on his face and asked in really broken English where I was going. I didn’t respond and decided I’ll only get gas from Wawa since now on. I hate being harassed by these dirty men! Ugh!
Jester, and you wanna say money shouldn’t matter but would you want to go out with a dirty gas-station boy if you were a girl? Maybe I should go to work, buy a nice car, get a guy with minimum wage job and be happy? I would love to see your reasoning if you were a woman.
Masha, you have problems with my calling a fucking dumbass a fucking dumbass? How should I put it another way? A mega dumbass? A galaxy size dumbass??? If that’s their technical name…
I’m just sick and tired of being sick and tired with those morons, why can they call us names like “sluts” and such.
And as for Ukranians, I’m sick of them too. Just look at the pictures the majority of them post on the dating sites - skimpy bikinis with nasty genitals for all to see…
Same as first arriving to Ukraine from Russia - it’s the striking difference: even at the airport (!) you already see those girls in stiletto heels and fishnet stockings - in an airport -why???? this hooker’s uniform, no surprise Ukraine has the biggest HIV rate in Europe.
Dear Ukranian girls, if you read this -cover up, for fuck’s sake!
Everytime some hooker works at a brothel in Europe or the US she never says she is from Ukraine or Moldova or Estonia or wherever they come from - they say they are Russian because they can make more money that way. At the same time hating on us and calling us occupants and supressors and that we had “genocide” on them and therefore they are entitled to aid from Moscow and repatriation and discount on gas price. Please, cover yourself up already nobody wants to see your nasty genitals!!!