Why Don’t Russian Men Marry Russian Women?
Why Don’t Russian Men Marry Russian Women?
Astonishing, isn’t it. There are thousands of beautiful Russian Women on the Internet. And all of them seemingly abandoned, left on the shelf.
The explanation is largely cultural. Most of us are attracted to Russian Women by their sexy, foreign accent. But if you already speak Russian, as most Russian Men do, the girls don’t sound at all foreign or sexy.
Another limiting factor is that the kind of women Russian Men date are usually already married to someone else.
Also, we must consider Russian demographics. There are far more men in Russia than women. I know this statistic is usually presented the other way around, but it is erroneous.
You will notice that in any sporting contests, - like the Olympic shot-put or weight-lifting - the Russian Women’s team regularly fails sex tests. It is also quite obvious to any casual traveller in Russia that all the women you see mending roads and driving trains are in fact men.
It is a complex subject and I will return to it later.
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hollywood has destroyed the world and corporations.People are just all into materialism because its what the sheep have been sold by other sheep.Woman every where are whores,business men are whores.I f you have something someone else wants,whether its your body,or money or car-people whore themselves out for what they are worth.
I talked to a neighbor today,and its sad,we both agreed that the only way to have a good relationship with a woman is to treat her like an animal-Do woman really like roses and to be treated nicely???They think your a wuss if your nice,they dont feel safe and then dont have respect for you because the relationship goes one sided once the other person knows you like them.Once yhou start taking a woman out,and giving her a gift here and there,she thinks she has you because of her fancy vajay jay-
luckily i know the game,and dont care or have the effort to “tame”a woman and could care less and think its the best thing for me to die alone in the united states,atleast i will die with my own house without a caniving american princess who will try and divorce and take it from me!! peace!
I seek a russian woman..must be educated and rich…i live in jamaica –bob marley country…call me at 18764790123 or email me at kingcozy@yahoo.com
christopher garwood
Are u for real?? LMAO What rich girl wants to live in jamaica lol ur prolly black too lol
billy
..and we think all men want is sex. to f** u and then dumb u. U hav to realalise though all people are different doesn’t depend on whether it’s a man or a woman u just have to find a perfect somebody for yourself and it takes time, you don’t give up like that after the first attempt. And not only in terms of relationships. If everything was that simple life would be too boring lol.
Isabelle-what do u mean which rich woman would want to live in jamaica?Jamaica is paradice “no problem”.Visitors come here and do not want to leave.No treat of terrorism or cold icy weather.Are u from the u.s.a well i have been there and most of u guys are not living better than us because u are all so stress out with bills etc.You people first world people are so stuck up and live for our your selves.Yes,we have our problem here in jamiaca as every there are shit head people but first world country have more problem…gangs,drugs,homesexual,religion etc.
Isabelle..I am black and so what?Are u better than me?I live into a 7 bed room house,how many bed rooms do u have?I drive a 2009 range rover,what do u drive?I work the eqivalent of $3200 u.s.a dollars a week,how much do u work?I party every week end,how often do u party?I am happy,are u happy?
What are u talking about?do u think we people in jamaica are not living any life lol?we live the life.
what does LMAO means.
You dont have a thing on me,I have friends that you would die for…i love u anyway because your so stupid,let me hear from you…bye.
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isabelle is a racist fool.
Russian culture and attitude is just plain different.
Very good article.Much thanks again. Much obliged.
Christopher, if you have a 7 bedroom house, makes that much money, party everyday, and loves Jamaica why the hell you need to be in a website looking for “rich russian women”???
You already have a perfect life, you could go to Russia yourself to find a white woman, or have many at your feet over there in Jamaica if your that rich and what not. And yeah homosexuality is not a problem, at least not for people who have enough education. And if you want an educated woman, first be educated yourself and learn some english.
“I have friends that you would die for” LOL make me laugh man!
Christopher Garwood:
Why is it that when negro people get behind a keyboard, they boldly spin tales of being CEO’s of corporations, have millions of dollars and homes in the choicest of destinations all around the world?
All of the negroes I see in my town that have Range Rovers, BMW’s, or Mercedes-Benz’s (also, ever notice negroes only “show-off” the prestigious cars of WHITE nations like England and Germany? Why don’t they show off luxury cars designed and built in their beloved Africa? Oops, I’m sorry - they don’t even make BICYCLES there!, LOL)usually are recipients of “Affirmative Action” hiring; they got their jobs by squealing “racism”. (And how much longer do you think THAT will work?)
Most negroes I see are riding bicycles 2-up on BMX bikes; one stands up and pedals while the other one lazily sits back and enjoys the FREE RIDE! They have little money and live with their parents in a run-down shack - but have shiny 24″ spinning rims on 1978 Caprice Classics.
Jamaica is “Heaven” near the resort area’s (to attract White tourists?) But stepping off the beaten path and into the “real” Jamaica isn’t so rosy. Think Trenchtown…
I live in Canada , I am from st Petersbourg Russia. I love Russian men , we can express how we feel to each-other in our language , that is deep and defiantly more penetrating than english. I really enjoy the company of Canadian men , men of all cultures . To me is more important how YOU make me feel . If I feel good with you then im happy.
There is ignorant people everywhere . I love my Coutry and dont let any American speak bad of my people , just like when I go back , i dont let any Russian speak bad of my friend in America.
I was going to Marry Jonathan and my BEST friend was going to Marry Jordan and we thought with all the interviews they had to do we would give them a break and provide them with a special interview in their honor…
Alex typical racist that uses any discussion, that has nothing to do with Blacks/Africans (this blog is about Russian men/women), as an opportunity to instigate dumb opinions. Anyone from any race who has the money and can appreciate a fine automobile will buy a BWM, Mercedes, whatever luxury car. People globally purchase those cars, because they are good cars, and those buyers are not all German. How do you think that being “white” makes you inherently responsible for over 30 years of excellence in car engineering?
This friggin idiot thinks that he or anyone who is born “white” can claim the excellent work of German engineers who build great cars.
You are a low life scum bag who is jealous of other people’s material things and will not accept your own failures in life.
To get back on topic. I don’t know any Russian men or women, however even though most people are saying Russian women are whores, I will not believe it. Prostitution is centuries old, every country has men/women who are whores, whoring is not exclusive to Russia. No one can convince me otherwise because I have an education and don’t get caught up in stupid stereotypes.
Love,
Black American with a brain.
I know exactly why Russian men don’t marry their women. I’m an American woman married to a Russian man over 8 years now. That being said, I’ve been to Russia and have been around my fair share of Russian women here in the US. One thing is for sure, they are cruel manipulative and down right mean. We used to go to parties with many of them two or three times a year. The women (99% of whom are married to old rich geezers) would talk badly about me right in front of me. At first I didn’t know this was going on until my husband filled me in. Now I KNOW Russian, and hear the things they say! Not only about me, but about others that may have stepped away from the group for a moment. These women are jealous, greedy, emotional vampires that will suck the life from you! They are only out for themselves and will go to all new lows to ruin everyone’s lives around them, even their friends. They are especially cruel if you have something they do not. And everything is for show with them. It’s like hens in a henhouse pecking each others’ eyes out!
well russian women are bitches..they r always running behind others husband…they want to ruin other people life for money and for paper….i had a personal experiance..a bitch came and try to fuk up my love life and she almost did but thank god my man also know their history so he just use her and throw her in the garbage bin where she really belongs..but since that accident ..i still have nigthmare about that incident
LOL!)) i loved comments more then article itself)) i happened to be Russian; i drive my American boyfriend crazy with all my stories of greatness of Russia and its people. one main thing about Russians, both women and men, they are highly educated. i think that attracts people from other cultures to date or hang out with Russians. i may be naive in my thoughts though.
it was a comment from Daniel “..There is some Russian poem about a newly wed, bride, who at 1 am insists on an apple; new hubby somehow goes into the night and finds one and comes back an hour later, and wifey says ‘oh, ha, ha, I do not want an apple anymore, I want an orange’. And the Russian man, supposedly I am told, just gushes with love for his wife because she is so cute to change her mind at 2 am, and now he can go out again for an orange. Ha, ha, ha. How cute. How precious of the Russian women culture”
well, Daniel, it would be great to read American classics at times, especially O’Henry))) You just derscribe his story about Italian-American bride and her groom, a boxer, who went looking for a treat ina deep night in the streets of NY.
AFF iM BRAZILIAN MYSELF, AND BRAZILIAN MEN, CANADIANS, AMERICANS ETC ARE SOOOOO FUCKING CHEAP
GO RUSSIAN GIRLS YOUR THE ONES RIGHT, IF YOUR A GIRL, AND YOUR YOUNG, PRETTY, SMART, EDUCATED, WHY THE FUCK YOU HAVE TO GO OUT WITH THOSE LOOOSERS WHO WANT YOU TO PAY THE BILL ETC WHEN THEY ARE THE ONES WHO INVITED YOU OUT IN FIRST PLACE. OR YEAH IF IM GOING OUT WITH AN OLD MEN, WICH I NEVER TO BTW CAUSE ITS NOT MY TYPE, OFFF COURSE I WANT SOMETHING IN RETURN. AMERICANS ALWAYS SAY TIME IS MONEY, WHY IS IT WRONG FOR US GIRLS TO THINK THE SAME???
I HAVE A RUSSIAN BF FOR THE FIRST TIME AND WE COULD NEVER GET ALONG BETTER, HE PAYS FOR EVERYTHING FOR ME, GIFTS, MADE ME FEEL LIKE A PRINCESS, AND WHEN I PAID HIM DRINKS, GAVE HIM GIFTS ETC, I DID IT BECAUSE I WANTED, BECAUSE HE HAS CLASS AND WAS WORTH IT, NOT BECAUSE HE WAS CHEAP AND WANTED ME TO PAY THE BILL AND WHAT NOT.
THE TRUTH IS 99% OF MEN IN THSI WORLD HAVE NO CLASS, THEY WOULD MARRY YOU, MAKE YOU PAY FOR THINGS, AND CHEAP YOUR ASS WITH THE FIRST WHORE. IF A MAN TREATS YOU LIKE A PRINCESS, NOT ONLY HE IS LEAST LIKELLY TO BE A CHEATER, IF HE IS, AT LEAST YOU CAN SAY YOU ENJOYED THE RIDE BICHES.
COME ON WOMEN DONT BE STUPID
Russian women don’t know how to cook. They fill half a frying pan with cheap sunflower oil and expect you to eat it. PIGS
it’s strange. I don’t know why they don’t want. http://www.searchdatingsingles.co.uk
Fantastic posting! I like your website, and If possible update it even more frequently.
i been one 1time Russia too, for 12 days,
really not understand Russian woman and Russian clutter,
one of woman tell me about Russian clutter,
if wish to know more about!!
i can’t say they are very honest ( yes or no)
they have different principle, very easy change own promise,
and try to they right very smart looking this way Russian women!!
guyz am from Cairo EGypt n this is the most visited place by the russians , well i wanna make the long story short so am gonna get str8 to the point , russian girls r the most cute girls yo can ever meet up ,BUT they crazy as fuck ,no they r freakin phsyco for real they get us twisted down here , a simple example of what sayin is dat they choose to hang with the beggers n dempesters ALTHOUGH they r chased by lotta classy guys ,n they choose nuthin but low profiles ….. it aint my personal point of view guys , it is the stereotyped image if the russians …. plus , being so ignorant till extent that they comes to cairo n they think that Cairo is located in Asia!!! n they r never futuristic n studies nuthin n knows nuthin bout other cultures or even general knoledge , they knows nuthing but the vodka!!lol so they nuthin but an empty ,trivial, cold creatures … so being pretty is never enough ….
advise : stay away from russian/ukrainian girls…. lol.. they r thw worst and they never admit a mistake..+ whores.
i knew 1 and we were preparing for marriage, and trust me she was the 1 pushing it, later i discover her cheating with another loser. Her excuse was” i need attention, i am a girl”! :S wtf…
russian men are better than russian women!…
russian men dont marry russian women because Russia is under the zodiac sign os Aquarius. for astrology knowers there is a specific sex connotation for this sign…
GOOD blog , really interesting informations i’vde found here, i will segure past by more offten and read it!
Butch,
Only a particular calibre of Russian woman goes to Egypt (or Turkey) to fraternise with the locals.
The Chornaya Zhopa are not high on their list of intended conquests generally — unless just for occasional holiday fun and experience.
Cairo is the largest city in Africa and the Arab World, and one of the most densely populated cities in the world. But no different to a Russian than anywhere in third world Asia/Africa. Its all third world there; what’s the point?
To others: Russia is regarded as 2nd World.
Rachel…
1. You shouldn’t go out with a person to get something (other than love) in return.
2. 99% of men in this world have no class- yet here you are telling women ‘not to be stupid’ and go out with a man who treats you like a princess even if theres no love because of what you will have to show for it … thats love (well not love, sex) for presents and money … thats prostitution, thats not classy.
3. shut up you classless whore, stop typing in capitals who are you shouting at?
women, dont listen to her, shes nuts, do you really want a fake relationship with no love or caring just to get a free ride? its pointless, im sure if you are any kind of nice person you can find a nice guy who will treat you well >because he cares for you<
p.s chris garfield… dont be a homophobe its not nice.
whats Russian woman looking far away in new Zealand real love or just better life from man, they thing kiwi man just stupid one of woman from saint-Petersburg Russia she told me when kiwi women have no interesting with kiwi man thats why kiwi man looking Russian woman in internet, but my point of view same Russian man not interesting with Ruusian woman thatswhy Russian women looking oversea man!!!!
they have poor life in Russia! how you guys think?
I think that some actual EVENTS of my life with my Russian wife will suffice to all to understand what they are about (I feel bad for the dude with the cheating fiance who explained ‘I am girl, I need attention’; that is such a Russian thing to say… girl can say anything, DO anything, ‘because they are girl’.)
Before I get onto some factual occurances, my 14 yr old Russian step son, openly states - and to his Russian mum - ‘I never want to be married, because my wife will treat me the way you treat Daniel’. Enough said??? of the Russian woman culture - that even their own sons, day in and day out, see the manipulation, the lies, the ‘princess attitude’, the caprices, the henpecking ,the complaining, the ingratitude, the feigned uphappiness.
Tonight: concert I have booked to go to with my wife and son and six friends for SIX MONTHS: one hour before concert, my wife says to me in the supermarket ‘why are you walking slowly today’; I say, ‘I am a bit sick and feel a little run down’. That ushers in a 30 minute diatribe by her about how I am always sick (a lie - not one sick day from work in five years!) and how (suddenly) she is in prison in her life (the last six months daily she says how happy she is). But the Russian woman wanted to ’stamp her authority’ on the situation. End of story: she finished with ‘I am not going to the concert’. I actually did not have an agruement. I just let her rampage. But you can see a Russian woman puts her caprice before her husband and son and six friends. No concert tonight - six month plan obiliterated in one Russian rampage.
Going backward in time: two months ago arranged two weekend holidays (Friday my work, Sat our holiday); one to Brisbane, one to Melbourne. Brisbane went great - wife happy. The day before Melbourne, wife had some ‘outrage at something’, so I went alone. Wife air tickets wasted and 5-star hotel wasted. Well I slept there, but alone not enjoyable. I dont even remember what outrage she had. They are so common and so scripted I just forget the individual outrages. But I could write, from memory, the poor Princess speaches that can come my way. She has had me in tears many times. But not anymore. I just walk away now out of the house. I come back a few hours later. A few days later she starts talking to me. The all is fine for a couple of weeks until the next ‘poor Princess’ outrage. Actually, I am cruel. Once she starts one now, I actually talk it back to her. I know all the clever, bullshit, sentences she can spout.
Actually, about a year ago she smashed my computer at home because she was angry that she did not get to go to the massage palour enough. You know how it is. If you dont get a Thai massage regularly it just shows how the husband does not love you. Mind you, that was the first time she said she did not have enough massages. She has about one every three/four weeks. Anyway, I laughed at that new, random, bullshit and started to write it on a paper - telling her I will record all the things she is saying she needed. Since I was near the computer, she smashed the computer.
Previous year: holiday planned to drive Great Ocean Road between Melbourne and Adelaide. Drove a couple days down the seaside from Sydney to Melbourne. Then 5 star hotel in Melbourne. But wife got upset that I did not buy her coffee in the restaurant - I invited her to the River Bank instead to have take away coffee looking over the water. She informed me that was low-class on my part. Holiday finished with huge Russian diatribe about woman vs man. Drove back to Sydney without doing the Ocean Road.
A couple years before that: shopping holiday in Hong Kong. Went great for 3 days, then last day we booked the Intercontinental overlooking Hong Kong harbour (this is a top 10 IN THE WORLD hotel). She bought about 5 grand of stuff, but when we went to the fireworks at the harbour I told her we did not have time to sit in the coffee shop of the hotel. Fireworks 9pm to 9:15pm. We were in the midst of shopping a couple streets from the harbour and that shop closed at 9:30 pm. So at 9 pm we went to fireworks, but I knew we need to immediately go back to her shopping - as we leave the next afternoon back to Sydney. So I said ‘no’ to buying coffee inside the hotel. She cried for 24 hours. Never ate food. I arranged a limo from the hotel to the airport to go back to Sydney. She threw up, from distress, in the limo. At the airport the check in people would not let her check in since she was shaking so bad. I had to book a flight the next day. And we stayed at the airport hotel. For 24 hours I begged her forgiveness - and I explained the logistics of our shopping and I was not being cheap. Finally she said ‘perhaps you were not being cheap, and perhaps I was wrong’. To this day, she denies saying those words… a Russian woman can never say ‘oops, sorry, I was wrong’
Honestly, I did write a book. It was 200 pages of this shit. I wrote it because my wife nagged me for 3 years sayin I am great writer and if I wrote a book I would make lots of money and be able to give it to her. Ha ha. One time in Fiji she pointed out to a 100 meter long yacht and said ‘I want you to promise to buy that for me one day’.
It just goes on and on and on and on. And all her Russian female friends are EXACTLY like her. My Russian step daugher who just graduate from ANU (in Canberra, one of the best Unis in the world) has obtained a job. My wife’s friend in Odessa say ‘what!!!, does she need to work like 5 days a week!!!!!!!!!!!!!’ Aghast, horror.
Ok, enough, if any of you Russian women want my book to read on paper what you are really like, just drop a post and I will send you the book.
What an amazing culture.
I have just read Daniel’s report of life with a Russian wife… and have to concur… he is right. I am only HALF Russian and yet, remember well my mother’s outbursts (VIOLENT RUSSIAN RAMPAGES) that could occur at the drop of a hat or a suggestion. The moodiness, the volatility, yet at the same time, as her daughter, and she has recently died, I can say this with hand on heart: 1) there is no woman alive as interesting as she was and 2) I am just like her, with the tiniest bit of modification from my father’s very calm pastoral old English countryside to American Pennsylvania countryside genes. There are no women like Russian women. Yes, they lie. My mother was a LIAR (capital letters all the way) and a MANIPULATOR (again, BIG capital letters) - a friend of mine once commented that my mother used her children as her own peculiar ‘Greek Theatre’ and it was quite a tragedy indeed living with the vagaries of my mother’s moods, but as I said, she was sharp as a tack and smart and mindblowingly beautiful and at the same moment could charm the pants off the little birds in the trees. Butter wouldn’t melt in her mouth… soft sweet and calm to the outer world… like living in the eye of the hurricane at home. so… for all the men out there; you want excitement? Marry a Russian woman. You want the usual complaints and mealy-mouthed quiet miserable behaviour, marry someone else.
Yes, Electra. She is still my wife - stupid outbursts and all. You see (and you know) when the outbursts are not happening, she is amazing. There is a new silent, deadly thing, though creeping into the marriage. The days are so full of her explaining to me what a shit I am - (I mean when she sleeps in the morning, then the morning with Vanya and I is great - breakky and off to school and off to work - but when the dragon wakes up and explains for the first hour of your day (and to Vanya) what shits we are - well the days starts poorly).
My point is, she complains that I dont have a big desire to have much sex with her. To be honest, when someone has explained to you 50 times in the day the last 10 years mistakes you have made - well, that lovin feeling just aint there at the end of the day. I have explained to her a million time when she spends hours critisizing and complaing and explaining it makes me feel like I a living with my MOTHER. And I have no desire to have sex with my MOTHER.
But she cant stop. Mind you, as I said, the other 90% of the time she is not rubbishing me she is wonderful. And I always feel like LOVE in the morning - as my sleep has swept away the rubbishing of the previous day. But, of course, she is a night person… so she then just complains to me that my ‘timing’ is wrong.
But thanks for endorssing my observations. It gives me some hope. My wife is not INSANE. She is just RUSSIAN.
Dearest Daniel, your first paragraph reminds me of my childhood. My father would wake early and prepare my breakfast and take me to school on his way into the city (New York) where he had a huge world of responsibilities and tasks ahead of him, like healing the sick and dying; yet, my mother, was ALWAYS ’sick’, in the old-fashioned way… 100 years ago, she would have clutched a handkerchief and smelling salts and called for a surgeon like the clock striking the hour… in our life, she was ALWAYS in bed… ALWAYS resting… ALWAYS napping… ALWAYS a monster once she woke. now.. here’s the twist; My father became terribly ill, heart attacks and strokes from a life of work and her verbal abuses. Once he was as weak as a kitten and could hardly speak, the hidden love and respect she had for him poured forth in vast oceans of affection and care. My mother looked after my serious ailing father for 6 years until his death. Never once complaining. No longer abusing or rejecting him. Loving and cradling and coddling him like he was her most beloved child. I am sorry to have to tell you that you may have to become ill to discover what a beautiful woman your wife really is, but that’s how it happened in our house.
I have really enjoyed reading your posts on this subject.
1)I NEVER PUT LOVE IN THE EQUATION, NEITHER THAT WOMEN SHOULD ONLY GO FOR MONEY, BUT THINK OF THEMSELVES, AND STAY WITH MEN WHO TREAT THEM LIKE A GENTLEMAN, MEN WHO ARE CONSIDERATE WITH THEM, AND IF THEY CANT EVEN PAY THE BILL WHEN THEY TAKE YOU OUT FOR DINNER, OR BRING YOU A BOTLE OF WINE WHEN THEY ARE INVITED FOR A DINNER TO YOUR HOUSE, SORRY THAT IS A SMALL SIGN THEY DONT CARE ABOUT YOU. IF THEY CANT DO THE SMALLEST THINGS, WHY DO YOU THINK THEY WILL DO THE BIGGEST?
AGAIN IS NOT ABOUT THE MONEY, BUT THE CONSIDERATION, THE TIME AND EFFORT TO THINK ABOUT THE GIRL YOU ARE DATING.
THATS A CULTURAL THING, ITS ABOUT BEING POLITE, THINGS MANY PEOPLE DONT UNDERSTAND AND JUDGE, BECAUSE THEY ARE CHEAP THEMSELVES, AND WOULD RATHER JUDGE THAN UNDERSTAND THE CULTURE. ITS A FACT, FOR BOTH SOUTH AMERICANS AND SLAVS, A WOMAN PAYING THE BILL, OR GOING TO SOMEONES HOUSE EMPTY HANDED IS CONSIDERED UNPOLITE AND CHEAP. I MYSELF EVERYTIME I GO TO A DINNER AT THIS RUSSIAN GIRL FRIEND OF MINE I BRING AT LEAST 2 BOTLES OF WINE, OR WINE/CHAMPAGNE, IT DOES NOT HAS TO DO WITH MONEY, OR A FREE RIDE, BUT ABOUT BEING GENEROUS AND CHARING, SOMETHING MANY PEOPLE LIKE YOU, DONT UNDERSTAND.
DONT BELIEVE IN SOCIETY HIPOCRISY. BEFORE YOU OPEN YOUR COCK SUCKER MOUTH YOU LEARN HOW TO READ.
2)I WRITE WHOEVER I WANT WITH OR WHITHOUT CAPS, IF YOU DONT LIKE IT, SUCK IT, THE SITE IS NOT YOURS NEITHER IS THE INTERNET NOR THE COMPUTER. THERES A LIL X BUTTON IF YOU DONT LIKE IT, A RED ONE IN THE RIGHT IN CASE YOU HAVE A MAC.
3) OHH BECAUSE CALLING SOMEONE YOU DONT EVEN KNOW A WHORE IS SOOO CLASSY OF YOU. IM PRETTY SURE ALL THAT RAGE COMES FROM BEING USED OVER AND OVER AGAIN BY MEN, WICH PRETTY MUCH SOUNDS LIKE YOUR CHEAP STYLE
LOVE
RACH
I am a Russian female. Born in Ukraine and moved to the States when I was younger. The circumstances were the Soviet Union collapsing and poverty striking the nation. My mom met an American and married him when he promised her opportunities for her child that I would not have if I stayed. He was abusive and controling like the majority of men that go to different countries to see a “slave” wife.
She divorced and remarried. She always has the house clean, cooks breakfast and dinner for her husband, and works. All of this without complaining. She doesn’t swear, yell, drink, or smoke.
You can not find a better wife than her.
And there are many problems with Russian men; getting women pregnant and then not wanting to support the child and alcoholism is another problem growing rapidly.
I speak fluent Russian and don’t find Russian accents or the language sexy in the least bit.
Go back and do your history on the country and the struggles that people have gone through next time you want to say that all Russians are crazy.
I am a college student, working, volunteering,I donate blood, I act, I don’t get involved in relationships or sleep around, and I clean, cook amazing vegan food, financially support myself.
Yeah, I am just an awful person that no man should seek out.
I have a business in Russia. I have dated some Russian women and I have many Russian male friends. I employ Russians.
Up to the age of about 40, the male/female ratio in Russia is similar to the USA, slightly more males in the 20’s, slightly fewer males in the 30’s. In Europe, because male death rates from violence and accident are lower, males are in the majority into the mid 40’s. After 45 Russian men die in huge numbers compared to other countries because of smoking and alcohol related illnesses as well as continuing higher death rates from accident and illness. There is a huge surplus of women over 45. For young women the effect of these surplus 45 year olds is minimal. There are a lot of hookers in Russia. Similar women in the UK give it away for free while drunk. (Drunkeness among young women in the UK is exceeded only by Ireland in Europe - including Russia). It is unusual to see young women in Russia wandering the streets drunk to the point of incapacity. In fact I have not seen it. I see it every weekend in the UK.
Women have a lot of expectations put on them in Russian society. They are expected to be pretty (little girls are dressed up in bows for school) and act out traditional roles. They are also expected to excel academically and compete for work with men. These pressures cause low self esteem. Thus, most of the time the women try to please men but occassionally they have bursts of self disgust and become very aggressive and expressive. Daniel you are right to try counselling. The way you describe her she sounds like a good woman with a problem.
I have had a spectacularly failed relationship with one woman, already past 40. (At the time 11 years younger than me). She fitted the stereotype of a woman trying to cover up her low self esteem with make up, heels, clothes and a rich husband. I am now in a relationship of sorts with my landlady in Russia, a brilliant cook. Over four years our relationship has shifted from business to good friends to a close relationship. Once you know somebody well looks and age are less important then emotional fit. I certainly wouldn’t start by dating with a 25 year age gap. (Although I do note that in Russia and the UK I get more interest from younger women than I ever did from the same age group when I was young). She is a single mother. Lots of Russian men have wanted sex with her. None stayed long thereafter. An older man who stays around is a better bet. I get on great with her 11 year old son who called me his British Papa long before I shared a bed with his mother. She has no ambition to leave Russia. She wants me to move there so that she can build up her property business. It is a realistic option for me. Russian divorce laws recognize prenuptual agreements (UK ones don’t).
It seems to me that most of these international relationships are set up quickly. I think the old advice still holds “marry in haste; repent at leisure”. But anyway, what do you expect? God gives with one hand and takes away with another. Russian women have strong pluses as well as minuses. There is no such thing as perfect. Life is meant to be difficult.
I’m in contact by email with a russian lady. it started since January 2010. she looks pretty woman. we spoke some times via the phone. her voice warm and nice and she try to learn english and another language. Ambitious at her age:57 and mine 62 yrs. after 3-4 months i got some strange relpies to my emails to her (We became more and more friendly with passion and talks about meeting in my european country to plan a marriage). yes I became sad when I got back some strange replies with her just Resend-Buttn using..with a small text which included this word: “I’m bored of you!”. This happened 2-3 times. With this in mind I stoped to write to here since april. She continued writing and asking why I didn’t write to her anymore. But without no answer from my side. She called..and wrote again and again. Intil some weeks ago I answered her, she told me that she is very happy now and we may to try to meet each other etc. To be more prudent, I don’t like to blame her for this and I try to understand that could happened because of some technical computer’s problem, beside her primary english knowledge.
But I feel the same unsecurity with her. she now write to me with more restrictive style, no more precisions and just want that I shall write more about myself. and other simple questions. But it’s difficult to get her to express her opinions about the substance of our efforts that helps us to make real decisions. This confuse me more and I don’t like to waste my or her time. I know that beside keeping me with this correspendence, she continue actively in other dating sites with Chatting etc. I don’t like to have prejudices at this stage, when she express her will, wishes and hope to “create a cosy and warm family life” with me.
I really wish feedbacks from people who have/hade experiences with the russian attitude of reservation/shyness and the patience for longtime dialogue. Maybe this will take time?
Thanks for every opinion!
Alex,
You did the right thing cutting off the discussion but you need to make progress. You need to meet. If you want real life relations it is time to move. Of course she is on other chat sites. If you can’t win her against competition how are you going to keep her? If she is learning English at 57 she is intelligent and ambitious. What is your nationality? What is your native language?
Lodger
Thanks for your comprehensiv reply: you understood really my feelings and situation. I will try and give her more time and chance. My nationaliy is swedish and my native language is arabic.
I have been dating a Russian man for about 5 months…I’m an American woman. I tell him I love him…he says thank you. We go out and I constantly dress up and make myself look good because I want him to be proud to be with me…and he constantly tells me how sexy other woman are that he sees. He never says I look nice…he never says I look sexy. The other day my nails REALLY needed to be done…he pointed out the fact that my nails looked very bad (I’m a bartender so this happens)…I got them done and showed him…he said they were to short. I always tell him how nice he looks when we go out…he says thank you…he starts walking tall…but never returns the compliment. He doesn’t hold my hand or kiss me hello or out in public…He criticizes me in front of his friends…But when the Russian girls come around he kisses and hugs them hello and then starts speaking to them in Russian and I am left sitting on the sideline waiting to be acknowledged. The Russian girls never say hello to me…they act like I don’t even exist. When I tried to talk about how this all made me feel…he said I will not tell you what you want to hear…I will tell you the truth. OK…well…since I never hear a compliment from him, I assume I am not pretty enough for him. Then he says “I don’t say I love you…I show it”…ok…well…telling me other women look sexy when we go out and not even mentioning the fact that I look at least “nice” really doesn’t show me you love me…makes me feel insecure and not good enough. Is there a Russian man out there somewhere that can explain my Russian boyfriend to me? Is this a cultural thing that happens alot or is it just him? When I get upset at the fact that I don’t get compliments from him…he tells me to go home and relax and to call him tomorrow. I don’t understand it…I just want to hear once from his voice that I look nice…maybe that is to much to ask from a Russian man. I finally told him that I have given up and that I know I will never get a compliment from him…he just tells me what is wrong with my appearance and that’s fine…it’s actually not but I told him this so he doesn’t think I am weak or inssecure…but I am. Please help!
@Christina
I am not a Russian man but I live in Russia and compete with them for female attention. You are dealing with some negative factors.
Educated Russians marry early. At the end of the Soviet Era, the women often became pregnant and married at 18 when they started University. Now it is more typically 23 when they leave. This is because University is the est place to meet large numbers of people of a similar educational background. The average age of marriage in Russia has risen but from about 20 to 23 (and this includes poorer people who went straight to work often in sexually segregated jobs and have difficulty finding partners). Quality marries quality so the best partners went first. Your guy and his girlfriends are the left overs unless they are already divorced and thus incompetent leftovers. At the least, he is among the comittmentphobes. He might be rich enough to be in the USA but the rich also marry early (especially the rich - the women can have babies and then get on with their careers while grandmothers are young enough to help- sensible really).
Serious, sober, hardworking men who treat women with some respect are what Russian women seem to look for. They disappear fast. Most of the rest are mother’s boys. They are often only children. They expect women to service their every need without complaint. You may be a mother substitute. Do not expect your sacrifices to be noticed. The formerly high divorce rate (it is much lower these days) is attributed to the idea that these men have no attraction to their wives other than the paycheck and are divorced if they lose their jobs.
Russian men believe that life without sex is unhealthy. There is therefore a huge sex industry in Russia to service these men. Are simply you a replaceable provider of sex in a country without a serious sex industry? (And the Russian girls don’t fancy him).
What visa does he have?
None of these comments may apply to your man?
@Christina
And if he doesn’t show you he loves you then, on his own terms, he doesn’t love you.
Well…he’s been in the country for 10 years and does not have a visa now…it ran out 7 years ago. When we have sex he says “thank you”…so I guess in all retrospect I am providing a service to him. Funny you should mention that cause I actually told him that I felt like I was providing a service to him. I kinda new that…guess I was searching for and hoping for another answer…Thank you for your honest response.
i also have to include that I am his only serious girlfriend since he’s been in the United States…and the only girl he’s been with sexually in 5 years. I don’t know if this holds any bearing on my current situation. But I’ve been told this by several people he’s been friends with since he landed in the USA. Thank you for your insight Lodger…I appreciate it.
@Christina,
Maybe he is just depressed and stressed out. If he left Russia 10 years ago, he left a place everyone thought was an economic disaster. Actually, it has been one of the world’s best performing economies. The top 15% now live almost as well as West Europeans of similar social class. Meanwhile, he is in the US without official papers. He can’t make real progress in the US and his alternative life in Russia is slipping away. His life is based on a mistake. He might be just too stressed out to show anything. (All the previous comments still apply).
True…I can see that being an issue. His mother passed away while he was here without papers and could not get back to Latvia. Also, he has a twin sister he has not seen for 10 years. He went to University and is very well educated (he knows more English words than I do). I just hope that the reason he is with me is not for papers because I have already made it quite clear that I will not marry just so he can get his papers. He always talks about the “Soviet Union” and “CCCP”…never Russia or Latvia (he’s from Riga)…but consider’s himself a citizen of nowhere. I find that quite sad…it’s almost like not having a home. Thank you again…it feels good to talk to someone that has knowledge and understanding…I guess I feel like I am at a dead end with him because normally a man compliments his girlfriend if she looks nice…he said, “If I say nothing…that means everything is ok. I should be the most critical of you.” Just real powerful words that make me feel crappy I guess…GOD I sound sooo pathetic…sorry!
If he is a Latvian then he can become an EU citizen. He can work anywhere in the EU. If he is a Latvian of Russian descent then he also has the choice of moving to Russia. The one place he can’t stay is the USA. It is a typical Russian habit to try and cheat the system rather than do things properly. It sounds as though he has really screwed up his life by doing so. I don’t think that he can’t marry you to get papers. If it was the UK, he would need to leave the country and apply for a marriage visa. Of course once he tried to leave the country then he would be discovered and never allowed back again. I think that the US is similar. He probably knows this. On the other hand you could marry him to get an EU citizenship. Life is the EU is better for the bottom 80% than it is in the USA. Only the rich prosper in America. The top 5% have far more than the top 5% in the EU.