Why Don’t Russian Men Marry Russian Women?
Why Don’t Russian Men Marry Russian Women?
Astonishing, isn’t it. There are thousands of beautiful Russian Women on the Internet. And all of them seemingly abandoned, left on the shelf.
The explanation is largely cultural. Most of us are attracted to Russian Women by their sexy, foreign accent. But if you already speak Russian, as most Russian Men do, the girls don’t sound at all foreign or sexy.
Another limiting factor is that the kind of women Russian Men date are usually already married to someone else.
Also, we must consider Russian demographics. There are far more men in Russia than women. I know this statistic is usually presented the other way around, but it is erroneous.
You will notice that in any sporting contests, - like the Olympic shot-put or weight-lifting - the Russian Women’s team regularly fails sex tests. It is also quite obvious to any casual traveller in Russia that all the women you see mending roads and driving trains are in fact men.
It is a complex subject and I will return to it later.
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Maybe russian men dont marry russian women just because men are too selfish and scared for their freedom:P or maybe russian women are too sexy,too smart just too good for russians. Lately,there’ve been very interesting trend in russian culture the better life span is the less russian men tend to connect their lives with women there reason of this it might be an unconcious permisiveness that leads to such tendency. Anyway,there’s not a trace of regret or despairation among so called “weaker sex” ’cause its a good opportunity to carve a career and spend more time on her -beautiful- self when there’s no disturbance in private life. So if russian men are not interested in russian women there are always french ,german or americanmen who would open their arms and marry a russian beauty:)
The fact is Russian men may want to marry Russian women but Russian women don’t want them; they just are not the financial producers that would keep a women and her offspring in style. In other words, it’s simple economics: throughout the world, survival of one’s genes etc. demands women seek out the best they can get; often, this is men who women in these men’s own cultures consider weak, passive, or otherwise undesirable. (But they’re better than the best Russia has to offer.) The same thing happens in third world countries. In Brazil, for example, women will do whatever it takes to find some foreign sugar daddy who will alleviate her financial woes. What it really means is the economy in these countries suck.
I would really like Copydude clarify that statement that “There are far more Men than Girls in Russia ” because every other website I have visited they state the contrary, Russian Girls outnumber Russian Men, so please put your facts on the table.
because russian women well-known whores.
Russian women are pouty, self indulgent, childish, and capricious. Who knows why they do anything…
I’VE BEEN LIVING IN RUSSIA FOR SOME EIGHT YEARS OR SO.AND I’VA BEEN MARRIED TO A RUSSIAN FOR FIVW YEARS.I CAN TELL YOU FROM EXPERIENCE THAT THE MAJORITY OF RUSSIAN WOMEN(99.9%) ARE TOTALLY SCREWDED UP IN THE MIND.THEY MAY BE A LOT OF FUN TO GO OUT WITH ATH THE BEGINNING..BUT,WATCH OUT.THEY’RE OUT TO GET YOU..THEY’RE ALWAYS AFTER ONE THING OR ANOTHER…PEACE.
Yep, marry a Russian woman at your peril, and thats if you can get them away from thier domineering mothers!! They are selfish, have no thoughts whatsoever for their husbands, will use them for their own gains and then blame them when they dont get what they want….leave them well alone, because you will end up alone….take it from me, I married one….never..EVER AGAIN. They seem so nice and innocent when you first meet, but their Soviet upbringing means they fend for themselves….DO NOT TRUST ANY OF THEM!!!!
Yes, at least, russian men dont marry them twice. Everybody knows most ex-soviet union girls are very poor and therefore they try to get out of their poverty at any cost. They just exploit their exotic looks and play the innocent ones when trying to catch their victim.
But marry them and give them a bit of time and you will see how cold blooded and greedy they are.
I am glad for that I’d hate to see a sexy russian man go to waste on a russian woman..all of whom I met are selfish and wear too much make up
well , i met with a lot of Russian girls in my life,not all but mostly girls are hookerz,girls cn do anything for money.
i also like Russian girls but reputation is not good of russian girls. . . . . .
Guys, girls are “good” and “bad” in all countries. It’s mistake to generalize. Some girls have a goal to marry with foreigners but most married with native men. “Bad reputation for Russian girls” - in some cases I agree but it another may be you are looking for girls only with “bad” reputation and you find them.
Russian woman are clever, beautiful, etc. but not all.
Well, I met a wonderful Russian man and we have been involved for just two months now. He refuses to marry a Russian woman (he is divorced from one and sick from the experience).
It’s not love talking, but he is extremely humble, polite and caring. A completely family-oriented man with extremely impeccable, traditional values. And he is learning English for me as well as preparing to share time with me in my country.
Just wanted to clear that for many western men who extol the virtues of Russian women and condemn Russian men. It is hilarious to see how someone will say Russian women are homely, caring and a zillion other things while Russian men are losers and drunkards. They both come from the same cultural upbringing duh!
Well, there are some amazing Russian men out there only if given the chance.
Yes, yes, I have been seeing a Russian women in Brooklyn NY for 6 years. She needed a green card and was sweet as pie at that time. Once she got what she wanted, I became the whipping boy… Your useless, do something, I want this, I want that bla bla bla bla bla. I was fortunate. I NEVER MARRIED THE BITCH. I found some fool to do it. I will never marry a communist now that I have read what I always knew.
Russian men don’t want to marry Russian women because they are, in most instances, complete and utter bitches. They are almost always too stupid and self-absorbed to ever admit that they make mistakes. If something goes wrong, it’s NEVER EVER their fault. I have never ever in almost 5 years heard (my Russian wife) say “I’m sorry”, for anything. This is just ONE reason for my despise of Russian women.
I had met and married a Russian woman from Ukraine that always seemed to cling to me whenever I opened my wallet. She always asked how much money I spent on gifts I bought her (especially jewelry) and rarely offered to pay whenever we’d go out. She never chased me romantically even once in three years of marriage. She hadn’t been very affectionate or loving and often seemed to use sex as a power against me. We had divorced after three years of a miserable marriage and are now somewhat friends after being divorced almost three years. She says she doesn’t know if she’d like to date me again, but I’ve noticed she has no problem whatsoever accepting money and gifts from me. She calls me when she needs emotional support and acts like a good friend then hints about struggling financially knowing I’d gladly help her out because I’m such a loser to want her back while struggling to break free from her charm. Love is blind…
Because, most of the sexy Russian men I meet are sick to death of Russian women’s bullshit.
I just had my 7th anniversary with my Russian (via Ukraine) wife. These 7 years have been the worst and the best of my life (hmmmm, sounds like a novel coming on). My wife so much tries but the parts of Russian women culture that really grates are:
1) a woman can never say sorry, because she can never, ever be wrong… because she is a woman; a Russian woman can say and do whatever they want whenever they want, and when it can be shown to be a complete caprise or brain dead or plain old BAD thing, they just say ‘I am woman, this is my personality’. A couple times I tried to complain that my feelings were hurt from stupid things said or done and the answer comes back ‘you are the MAN in the relationship, if you dont accept these things it means you are the WOMAN’
2) maybe it is just my wife, but she acts like a MOM to me all the time; she tells me what pants to wear, what shoes to wear, what shirt to wear and I have given up even trying to say ‘ummm, I am an adult man and I dressed myself for many years before I met you; and all the stuff I have now you bought anyway, so for sure I cant go wrong’. But it is no use, you must be prepared for the wife to be more of a mother… how sad
3) she will have a zillion expectations of you; my wife has said (sober and in clear mind and repeated) such zingers as: “I am young and beautiful and you have to pay” (when I tried to enforce a budget onto the family); “your job is to figure out how to get the money, mine is to figure out how to spend the money”; the expectations are pretty much like being married to a two year old… they expect this and expect that and pout for this and pout for that and if they dont get it, well I tell you what… my wife’s limited English does not prevent her from reducing me to tears as she can explain every mistake I ever made over the last 10 years; she can even relate one day 9 years ago I forgot to pour her a cognac (she actually said she did not want anymore…. but she changed her mind, but did not tell me she changed her mind… I was supposed to know to keep offering cognac after she said she does not want anymore… that is the word CAPRICE. Ha, ha. I never heard the word before I met her. But all Russian women, even with only basic English know that word, and know it gives them carte blanche to do anything, anytime.
There is some Russian poem about a newly wed, bride, who at 1 am insists on an apple; new hubby somehow goes into the night and finds one and comes back an hour later, and wifey says ‘oh, ha, ha, I do not want an apple anymore, I want an orange’. And the Russian man, supposedly I am told, just gushes with love for his wife because she is so cute to change her mind at 2 am, and now he can go out again for an orange. Ha, ha, ha. How cute. How precious of the Russian women culture.
I could write a book. Actually I DID! But my wife found it and read some and nearly divorced me.
Now my wife is wonderful. But if she was not a godess in soul and body I could never, never, never put up with such crapy. Actually, we are going to start going to counselling because I have blown my lid and yelled and swore at her a few times in the last year. Sometimes it is all too much. And, of course, a man should never, never speak harshly to the Russian wife. As she is not repsonsible for her words and actions. Would you yell and scream at a 6th month old baby. So I am going to counselling to learn to calm myself. I have a wee feeling I may get a little support from the counseller. Surely I cannot be 100% wrong.
Hmmmm, Russian women. You will only survive if yours is 100% in love and wants to make it work. Because with her preset culture you have no chance unless she is the best to start with.
Too bad. The guys are much, much easier to deal with. I kid you not. The women are high-maintenance to the 24th power.
Maria: “The fact is Russian men may want to marry Russian women but Russian women don’t want them; they just are not the financial producers that would keep a women and her offspring in style”
Typical Russian women. How about keeping yourself and your kid in style BY YOURSELF!!!!
Russian Fiancee
Haha…Its funny how men who marry russian women think they deserve better treatment than being a sugar daddy. Afterall you are using her for being poor and exotic, so she is expecting you to uphold your end of the deal….be the bank bitch…..Or marry a 30 pound overweight chick from idaho and watch tv everynight. You wanna con vagina from russian women and hate that they are cold and sober enough to expect you to uphold your offering in the arrangement….because thats what the western man/eastern woman thing is. Dont try to be a sugardaddy and then complain.
You made me laugh lourdea. So you are saying a Russian woman is allowed to be NEVER SORRY, 100% CAPRICE, DEMANDING, POUTING, CHILDISH, RUDE, BOSSY, etc etc, because she is Russian and has a vagina and may not be overweight.
What happens when she gets a few years older and puts on a couple of pounds. Will her character change? Will she look in a mirror and say ‘well, I better be normal now.’
Also, if it so obvious that she can be this way… just part of the ‘deal’… and everyone knows this… then why did she not be this way at the beginning… why did she misrepresent herself?
As I said, unless the Russian woman is 100% in love and committed, the cultural ‘oddities’ she has is too much for any man, of any race, to bear. So, lourdea, since you think the ‘oddities’ are expected part of the vagina-package, I contend that no relationship with a Russian woman can work.
*whisper* there are other women on earth with vaginas and are not overweight and dont carry the slavic attitude
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My Russian male friends all had relationships, but which ended of one or another reason. These relationships had been established when they either were studying or when they didn’t work full time. Now when they work full time and are single, they simple doesn’t have enough time to go out and meet potential singles. (Some of them work 9am-6pm and often work late)
When they do find someone whom they like and whom seems to like them.. The guys ends up feeling as if they’re their dates piggy-bank.
One of these men truly believed that all a woman truly wants is money. He sighed and said “Well, now when I don’t have that much money - they won’t even date me. Except the older single mothers.. And I want a woman without children. Those mother’s just seems to want someone to care for their child, not to love”.
“If we were more than friends you wouldn’t marry me, just because I can’t buy you that fancy car”.
Also, he added that they marry young in Russia, have children and then some divorce (of course. It’s normal). Then women wants a new husband to care for their child, etc.
Though, the men would prefer to date and hopefully fall in love with a woman without children (this is not because they don’t want children. They just want their ehhh.. own children).
I love these comments, really made me laugh! I’m currently living with my Russian boyfriend and have been with him for nearly a year. Yes that’s nearly a year!
From my experience of Russians and having been to Russia I can say the men are saviours for putting up with the women! They may have good figures but they aren’t all that pretty, strip them of their make up and they’re as plain as us.
Some women I met were very demanding and looked down at everyone else (even men) as though they are a goddess. No offence ladies!
Strangely enough every day in the summer there was a wedding and brides and grooms were everywhere. My boyfriend told me you can tell if they’re rich by the make of cars and how many they use to get to the ceremony. No doubt they’ll divorce in 2 years!
All my boyfriends friends though are lovely the girls and boys and incredibly loyal.
The boys especially are more loyal than my own friends! Everyone says Russian men are drunk, well ok once a month they go out and drink, but the one thing i know for sure is that Russians are incredibly passionate. I see why women like Russian men!
It is true though that their way of life is very simple and traditional, men must provide and women must cook and look after children.
I remember taking my boyfriend out to dinner after we had exams and then took him to see Les Miserables, the whole thing was a surprise. He was astonished when we left the restaurant that I had already paid when he went to the bathroom. The look on his face is unforgettable. And at the end of the evening the only thing he’d bought was a programme and a bottle of water. He couldn’t understand why i had done it al for him.
It wasn’t a special occasion I had just wanted to take him out and do things he hasn’t done in London. So when i told him and said i did it to please him and it was my way of showing i loved him, he looked at me with tears in his eyes. He told me know one had ever done anything like that for him before and felt so loved.
Bloody hell if no russian women shed a single penny for a man they’re dating let alone married to, how on earth can a man recognise he’s loved and appreciated?!
p.s. i’m not racist
when i read these iwas all like some of them are true ( i should know im russian) anyway not all russian women are like that. i know plenty of russian women who are happily married. i loved reading this to see what people think of us russians lol
I’m Russian too living in America my whole life an I can say for the most part the Russian girls are bossy and grow up to be sluts. I’m sorry. Unless you meet a one that has been raised in a Christian family. I like russian girls for the most part because I wouldn’t want our cultures to conflict and there are some good Russian girls. I also think it’s true how the Russian woman looks for a sugardaddy to take care of all her needs. But this is not true for all.
Its funny how some ppl describe russian woman on here
Well i’m from brazil and I say woman in Brazil are pretty much the same except they’re not as cold as russians. I personaly got the russian fever for quite a long time now, my past 4 relationships were with russian ladies, only one was born and raised in russia and came to north america when she was 15 though.
But still, never had to pay for anything (as in i either pay or she’s gone), always shared the bills, none ever told me what to wear. I do have to agree though, russians can be cold, but once again not all.
I believe that it doesn’t matter who or what nationality is your wife/husband, you set what’s acceptable or not when you start dating. I bet that most of you complaining on here were just so happy you were dating a hot lady that you just accepted anything she said.
I date this girl now for 4 yrs, we live together, we have our fights like every couples do, but i make it clear and so does she, what i expect from her in a relationship and vice versa.
Communication is the base for it all, since the beggining i’ve always said what bothered me and what not, she even tells me i complain too much, what can i do that’s how i am!
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So you do seem to have some kind of problem with them? If your past 4 relationships WERE with Russian women?
And now a fifth whom complains that you’re complaining too much and you say “What can I do, that’s how I am” - YET, you state that communication is the base of all. So that your problem should easily be solved and you’ll never date another again 
5th stays 5th.
Funny is that most doesn’t seem to complain. I don’t think they’d complain if they were so “happy with a hot lady”.
Sadly I know many Russians whom hate “their own people”…
People, I am Russian and i feel bad the way you talk about all nation knowing or having only one or two girlfriends from my country. I will NEVER marry russian man because MOST of them, NOT ALL, but MOST of them are pigs. They cheat, beat women up, drink too much…. Do you think is it a good life with husband like that? They are not educated. Not all of them, but mostly. I do not want my nation to be judjed. I have a university degree, i finished high school, i read a lot, i finished school in New Zealand. So I am smart. And theris not such reason for russian men not to want me. The question is if I want uncaring, unpolite, uneducated husband. My boyfriend is from Brazil and so far this is the best man i have ever met, the most caring, smart… What can i say? I am in Love! And i can’t choose who i am falling for. Can any of you?
And the last. Fatima, Jelousy and envy very bad feelings. You name are muslim… Are you? Jow does it feel to be third wife? And Russian women are just have choises!
Besides I could start a question “why american men do not want american wifes?” People do not make opinion on 2-8 people’s experiences. We are all different and tell me that you do not have women in your nations who love money? who use man? it the way our parents brought us up its not nation in particular! We are all different!
I have to agree with Russian Girl about Russian men of most of what she wrote. Although, I have only had 1 Russian as a boyfriend for 3 weeks! then he dumped me saying he wasn’t ready for a serious relationship. I had to laugh, come on 3 weeks is a serious relationship?? I am hoping to find a better russian man (afterall, we are easterners) or another european man.
I have to agree with the russian girl what she say about russian men. Myself is a woman of serbian, swedish and russian blood and i know russian women and i know that they are very smart and survivers for putting up with russian men. Mostly all men from eastern europe like Serbia, Russia, Ukraine, Poland and so on beat there women, drink and cheat on there girlfriends. I have a russian woman from my class that have been with russians and serbs before and she told me that she will never again go out with them.
I’m born, and from the united states. I happen to think Russian men are hot, and sexy. I have a sweaty, sexy fanasty of Russian men. It’s pretty much hardcore. I know this may not make sense to many of you. Why would a 22-year-old single woman from the USA. Want to date a russian man? Truth is i can’t help it. Besides having USA blood in me. Also have Russian blood in me.
I agree Elizabeth.. One can’t help it, right?
I’m 20 but have got this Russian boyfriend and he’s best. The only disadvantages with him, I’d say is his cooking skills - they go as far to both cooking and frying pelemeni ;))He does do the laundry and cleans if we do it together, otherwise he seems to forget most of it, lol.
The second disadvantage is his desire for not leaving Russia, damn it. I assume it’s due to language issues and he’s never been outside Russia. Funny is that he hates so much about Russia, lol.
Besides that he’s somehow sexy, loving, caring and yet again caring.
Why he became attracted to me when he got these cute native ladies, Chort knows..
That was a very very funny and true little paragraph about why Russian men don’t marry Russian women. And all the comments are on the money too. My mother is a ‘russian woman’ born in NY but RUSSIAN PARENTS… so the acorn did not fall far from the oak tree. She was SURVIVOR - all capital letters.. became a top fashion model, married my father and made his life a misery. he died and she’s happily living on and on and on.. I love her.. but I know her. My advice to all men.. beware the pouty sweet slanty grey eyed exotic looks of the Eastern European.. the Slav in general. They are designed to survive long journeys across leagues of wasteland.. they can row canoes between ice bergs and hop from one continent to the next.. they can live on camel milk in the Gobi Desert or shoot down a small bird on the wing or a big fat American cat who thinks he’s successful and smart. They can get what they want.. and leave you wondering just how they did it!!!! Beware the high heels and smiles.. and yes.. I’m very happy to hear that there are some sexy Russian men available. Next stop… St Petersburg.. Moscow.. Siberia!!!!
I found this thread very amusing. I am a Russian man and I am married to a Russian woman (and all of my Russian male friends are as well). Russian men love Russian women and they do marry them. I personally wouldn’t marry a woman who is into feminism and doesn’t want to have kids until she is 40, which is the reason why very few Russian men marry someone from the West.
The article is misleading. I studied statistics in college and there are much more Russian women than men in Russia and Belarus.
Russian women are not all whores. The majority of them are not.
Actually, Nick, you are probably right. Everywhere you go on this planet, there are women who fall in love with men, right where they are. They are happy to be there and the man is happy top have them. This notion that only ‘Russian’ women head for the border and greener pastures with wealthier Western men, is as true for some women from ANY country as it is of some Russian women. Women who are hungry for glamour and cash and clothes and cars and property and diamonds and the seeming ‘freedom’ that money appears to give exist in every corner of the globe. They exist in wealthy neighbourhoods too. Probably more ‘rich’ girls grow up hunting down wealthy Western men than poor ‘Russian’ girls do. Rich girls are used to the good life and would find it hard to leave behind. So.. yes.. but the article we are all responding too is so well written and so amusing in turns that it sparks that prejudiced agreement that ‘oh yes.. of course.. they are ALL WHORES!!!’ Not all women anywhere are all whores and not all men anywhere are all drunks and not all people anywhere are all bad. But the point of view of this website makes me giggle and leave comments. Not a bad thing, and not hurting anybody.
it is russian women who don`t wanna marry russian men and not the other way around.russian men don`t marry outside their race.russian men always want their women and never marry foriegner girls unless they are from western europe.in fact all men in eastern europe and central europe only marry their women and not foriegners.and to the INDIANLADY shut the fuck up BIIIIIIIIIIITCH.you are a big fat liar.there are no russian men who would have a relationship with an indian crap.but there are THOUSANDS of indian men who are involved with russian women.actually russian women marry men from all races.so stop dreaming bitch.
who ever wrote this crap needs to know his facts very well.russian women outnumber russian men by far.that`s why russian women marry a lot outside their race from foriegners:
arabs,asians,africans,central asians,latinos and western europeans.on the other hand if there is a russian man married to a foriegner it would be with a western european girl.
i have to agree with RUSSIAN GIRL.i could start the question(WHY AFRICAN MEN DON`T WANT TO MARRY AFRICAN WOMEN AND PREFER WHITE WOMEN?)OR(WHY ASIAN MEN PREFER WOMEN FROM EASTERN EUROPE?)